Toddler Tantrums

Recently Sophie's tantrums have gone to a whole new level. I may as well begin with today; we were walking around Ikea and Sophie was a bit grumpy at first but she got progressively worse. I tried different methods which usually distract her; toys, food, carrying her and also letting her walk around too but she was just in one of those moods - which have become more frequent recently.

We can always tell when Sophie is about to have a tantrum, as she moans and walks backwards. She nearly fell into something as she obviously can't see where she's going when doing this. I quickly grabbed hold of her but she threw herself quite hard on the floor, banged her head and then screamed at the top of her lungs.

Some people kindly smiled at me, as if to reassure me it was okay. Others would just stare.. like they had never seen a child having a tantrum before. I remember thinking to myself, I wish the ground would just swallow me up. I just wanted to go home to be honest, but we hadn't even picked up what we went there for so we carried on.

I do try and understand the reason for the tantrum; usually it is because she is either tired or there is a communication barrier. I remember reading a post a while ago which goes on about how to see things from a toddler's point of view, for example when you leave the park, they will see it as the end of the world because they are enjoying themselves and they don't really know any different. Sophie is at that age where she has a good understanding but she can't talk properly yet so she can't just tell me what's wrong.

I just wish that people wouldn't be so quick to judge - I'm trying my best.


What We Did Today: Garden Fun!

The weather has been lovely again today so we've been making the most of it. We've spent so much time in the garden recently as Sophie just loves being outdoors.

She's had so much fun playing with her outdoor toys too; mainly her sand and water table, rocking horse, slide and trampoline. Although she loves kicking a ball around the garden, pushing her Baby Annabell around in her pram and picking flowers for me which is so sweet!

I thought I would share some of the photos I took today:

I hope you've all had a good day and you're enjoying the weather too!


Our 4D Scan Experience

At our standard 20 week scan (January 2013) the sonographer managed to get the measurements she needed to ensure baby was growing correctly and everything was fine, which obviously we were so pleased and relieved about. But, as baby was lying in an awkward position we couldn't find out the sex on the day. She did try but baby was having none of it!

I was pretty disappointed as I was so excited to finally find out.. I'm so impatient and I was counting down the days haha. So as an early birthday present, my mum and sister very kindly booked a 4D scan for the following week. Finally, that day arrived but once we got there, baby was lying awkwardly once again and had both legs crossed. We kept having to take breaks while I wandered round the waiting room with a cup of water to try and get baby to change position. After about an hour, baby moved around slightly which was just enough for the sonographer to get a glimpse. I remember her saying "I think I know what it is"..."yeah, I think it's a girl!".

They rebooked us (for free) for three weeks time, as we didn't get any pictures which was part of the package. Although at least we eventually found out the sex! I was rather pleased anyway as it meant we got to see our baby girl again which we didn't expect to until the birth. The next scan (at 24 weeks) went a lot better actually and Sophie co-operated haha. We saw her yawning and drinking the amniotic fluid which was amazing to see! It was such an incredible experience and I would definitely do it again if we were to have more children. I have the disc of pictures in her keepsake box which we will keep forever and I can't wait to show her them when she's older.

If you're undecided whether to book a 4D scan, in my opinion I would 100% recommend it and it is worth the money. Although our experience was a gift I would definitely pay for it myself.. It was an amazing experience watching our baby on the screen and being able to see her features and everything.

Have you been for a 4D scan or do you plan on going for one? Let me know in the comments!


What We Did Today: A Trip To Cumbria

So today; me, my mum and Sophie took a trip to Cumbria to go and see my Nan. We usually go up and visit her every few weeks or so which is nice. They keep some farm animals there, mainly sheep and goats and as it's Spring, there are loads of lambs around so we wanted to take Sophie to see them. It was a beautiful day and we took a few pictures which I thought I would share with you.

We took a trip down the field to bring the sheep in. Sophie tried to help but instead chased them so they ran off in the opposite direction haha! She seemed to really enjoy herself though. She said 'bye bye lamb' as we were leaving, so cute!

I hope you've all had a good day too.


Toddler Bedroom

I thought I would write a post on what Sophie’s bedroom looks like as I love reading similar posts for inspiration. This is now actually Sophie's old bedroom, as we have since moved house, but you can see a tour of her new toddler bedroom here.

I went for the Mothercare Little Lane theme, as it’s just so pretty and perfect for a little girl. The curtains, lampshade, bedding, wall stickers and rug are all part of the range which has now sadly been discontinued.

We chose the Tuscany 3-in-1 from Babies R Us as it converts to a toddler bed, so it should last quite a few years. The cushions are both from The Little White Company; the one on the left was £6 in their last sale and is no longer available but you can find a similar one here. The sheepskin heart cushion looks beautiful in her room, you can find this here.

Storage Bag
The light pink gingham storage tub is also from The Little White Company and holds all of her soft toys. She has so many Jellycat toys, they’re just so cute and soft! You can find a similar storage bag here.

This is from Ikea which is part of the Kallax series. The drawers and baskets are also from Ikea and I think they look great and store quite a lot including clothes and toys. The room is pretty small so we needed a good storage solution.

These bunny night lights glow pink and look really cute in her bedroom and the lovely jewellery box is the perfect size to hold all of her hair accessories.

Print & Frame
The print on the left was a gift when Sophie was born last year. I love it and the colours fit in nicely with her room too. The frame on the right I bought from a baby store a couple of years ago.

Name Letters
I wanted to get some name letters for a while so I ordered them from a page on Facebook called The Lovely Letter Company. They are absolutely beautiful and match the room perfectly.

I recently ordered the matching bunting. It hangs above Sophie's bed and I think it really finishes the room off.

Behind the door are two Ribba picture ledges from Ikea which hold her books as she loves reading.

What do you think? I would love to see your little ones bedrooms.

*This post was originally published on 02/01/15 but I have since updated the pictures using my camera (instead of my iPhone) as they are better quality.


The Dummy Debate

I thought I would share my thoughts on this. I know everyone is different and not all parents want to give their child a dummy which is fair enough – each to their own I guess. But, I don’t understand why some parents are judged if they make the decision to give their child a dummy as there are pros and cons which I will go into further.

  • When nothing will soothe your child; for example if your newborn is suffering with colic or your child is just generally unsettled or in discomfort and a dummy calms them down then why is that a bad thing?
  • It can reduce SIDS (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome) also known as cot death. This is because sucking a dummy "either increases the baby’s chance of waking up or by improving its cardiac control – its ability to regulate its heart rate."
  • It satisfies the suck reflex. Some babies have a need to suck that exceeds the time they get on the bottle or breast.

  • As they get older they might wake in the night, numerous times for it. But if it settles them back to sleep then it’s only temporary and it won’t last forever.
  • Weaning them off it can be difficult; you could get rid of them overnight or there are other methods such as the ‘dummy fairy’ or I've heard of people putting them inside their bears at Build a Bear for their new stuffed toy to look after.
  • Using a dummy during the day may delay your child's speech development

At the end of the day and despite what some may think; I don’t use a dummy to ‘shut my child up’ and it isn't being a ‘lazy parent’. To be quite honest, I'm not in any rush to get rid of Sophie’s dummy just yet and she is nearly 2 years old and she has used them since she was just days old. She finds comfort from it and we usually only let her have it at nap time, bedtime and when she is tired in general as it will soothe her. So what is the harm in that?

What are your thoughts? Do you/did you give your child a dummy?

Sophie Update - 22 Months

Sophie turns 22 months old today, which means it's just two months until her birthday. It makes me want to cry just thinking about it! Her birthday plans are well under way which I will share with you nearer the time. But for now, here's Sophie's progress;

She can put 2-3 words together on her own; I said to her yesterday "where's Sophie?" and she replied "here I am". She picks words up really quickly too.

She is such a fussy eater, especially recently. She is very picky about what she will/won't eat. She won't try new food at the moment; so I'm just sticking to simple food and things I know she likes. I'm sure it's just a phase, it's hard work though. 

Some of the things she does just melts my heart. We were walking to my Mums and on the way Sophie picked a daisy and just wouldn't let go of it. When we got there Sophie just handed it to my mum and said "daisy". It was so cute! 

She will give you a kiss and cuddle when it's time to say goodbye too. 

I forgot to mention in her previous updates that she's in size 2-3 year clothes. She's quite tall for her age but she's always been long - even when she was a baby.

They have recently got quite bad. She hates being told 'no' and if she doesn't get her own way she will be just throw herself on the floor. She purposely bangs her head too; usually on the floor. She pushes boundaries too; she's constantly messing with the oven and washing machine even though she knows not to touch them. (We've taken to switching them off at the switch to stop her turning things on/off etc.)

That's pretty much it for this month!


Dealing With Colic + Tips

To be honest we didn't really know what colic was before Sophie was born, but that soon changed. The first 12 weeks of her life were especially difficult. We knew it was going to be hard with a newborn baby but nothing can prepare you for what’s to come. But not only were we getting to grips with parenthood and fulfilling the needs of our newborn; feeding, winding, changing nappies etc. around the clock we were also struggling with colic. So here's a bit more information about colic and some tips:

What is Colic?
According to the NHS website; “Colic is the medical term for excessive, frequent crying in a baby who appears to be otherwise healthy and well fed. It is a common yet poorly understood condition, affecting up to one in five babies.”

The exact cause is unknown but a few theories are; indigestion, trapped wind or a temporary sensitivity to certain proteins and sugars found in breast milk and formula milk.

Our Experience
It began when Sophie was around 2 weeks old and lasted until she was roughly 12 weeks old. Both Toby and I found this time incredibly draining. At the same time every evening, usually around 6.30pm, Sophie would become very unsettled and just cry – in fact scream for hours and hours on end, usually lasting until the early hours of the morning, around 12am. We would try everything to comfort her and calm her down but it seemed like nothing was really working.

  • Change bottles – we found Dr. Brown’s bottles really helped reduce wind. 
  • Colic drops – Infacol, Dentinox Colic Drops, Colief, Gripe Water etc. we tried most of them!
  • Bath and massage – A warm bath and a massage of their tummy may help if your baby is in pain or discomfort. 
  • Don’t be afraid to ask for help – if you have close family or friends nearby, I'm sure someone will be willing to help out if you’re struggling.
I know it will seem never ending – but I promise it won’t last forever and it will soon be a distant memory!


Planning a Children’s Birthday Party

I love being organised but it can be hard to know where to start when planning an event such as a children’s birthday party; so I thought I would share my tips. I love browsing Pinterest for ideas and inspiration too.

Image from Pinterest
Whether it’s your child’s favourite TV character or book – it’s a good starting point so you can then pick the decorations; banners, balloons, tableware and of course - the cake!

It’s a good idea to make a list of everyone you plan to invite; both adults and children so you can get an idea of numbers for the catering as well as ensuring there’s enough space.

You could hire your local community centre/hall, soft play centre or even just have it at home. We plan to hold Sophie’s 2nd Birthday party at our house as there’s plenty of birthday’s in the future where we can hire somewhere to celebrate and she will be able to appreciate it more.

Image from Etsy
I ordered both Sophie’s Christening and 1st Birthday invitations from Optimal Print which were good but there’s a limited choice to choose from. You could also look on Etsy or even make your own if you fancy being creative. Be sure to include the location (and postcode), date, time and who to RSVP to.

Food & Drink
You might want to check with your guests that no one has any food allergies beforehand. If you’re looking for ideas; finger foods on a buffet is a good option e.g. sandwiches, breadsticks, sausage rolls, cocktail sausages, houmous, crisps, raisins and pizza.

Games & Entertainment
Depending on the age range of the children attending will obviously depend on the games you may choose to play. I’m not sure pass the parcel or musical statues will work with 2 year olds haha. You could also look at hiring a children’s entertainer (a magician, clown etc.) or a bouncy castle but obviously it depends on the time of year and the party location.

Party Favours
Finally, it’s nice to give your guests a little thank you for their gift and for attending the party. Whether you give them a goody bag with a few bits in; bubbles, jewellery, colouring book, crayons, small packet of raisins or sweets and not forgetting some birthday cake! For Sophie’s party I'm planning on a sweet/candy bar so people can help themselves at the end. 
Image from Pinterest
I love this idea which I found on Pinterest for a Curious George themed party. You could adapt this too, so for example; a zoo theme you could buy different animals (giraffe, monkey, elephant) for the children to adopt or for a Disney themed party you could adopt different Disney characters etc. 

That’s it! I hope this post helps your party planning! Please let me know if you have any other tips if I've missed them out.


Sophie's Outfit Of The Day (OOTD)

I thought I would write a quick post on what Sophie is wearing today. The weather has been lovely over the past few days and the sun has been shining so we have spent quite a lot of time outside playing in the garden. Also, with the weather getting warmer I have finally managed to put Sophie in some of her outfits from her Spring/Summer wardrobe! 

Today she is wearing this lovely 2 piece set from George at Asda.
The white sleeveless top has navy embroidery detail and has plain navy leggings to match. It was recently on an introductory offer for £5 which is now £8 but I still think it's a great buy; perfect for the warmer months and it looks beautiful on.
I also picked up these jelly shoes from my local Asda yesterday. As soon as I saw them I just had to buy them as I remember wearing these when I was younger! They are clear and glittery all over with an easy buckle fastening, perfect for just playing in the garden etc. They were a bargain at just £4!

What do you think of her outfit? Do you like this kind of post? Please let me know in the comments below!


Easter Weekend 2015

Happy Easter everyone! I hope you've all had a lovely weekend. We certainly have! It's been really nice spending time as a family as Toby is very rarely off work.

On Friday we didn't actually do anything to be honest but on Saturday we went to visit Sophie's grandparents (my parents) in the afternoon and then we headed straight to Cedar Farm (I have mentioned it in previous posts; it has a coffee shop, gift shop and gallery with different small businesses in such as photography studio and handmade crafts etc).

We went to the coffee shop first; Toby had a latte and I had my usual hot chocolate (covered in marshmallows, mmm!). I took my camera with me and got some photos of Sophie playing on the park and we had a wander round. We looked in the little gift shop and I bought Sophie a Jellycat ballerina as it goes with a book that I've recently ordered for her.

On Sunday morning, we gave Sophie the Easter Basket I had put together for her (you can read what was in it here) which she really enjoyed opening. She went straight for the chocolate (obviously haha). She had some of her chocolate and then after breakfast we headed to Toby's parents for the day. We had a roast dinner there which was lovely.

We've had a really fun weekend and it has been nice spending time together with both families. Sophie was very lucky and received plenty of treats too! I hope you all had a good Easter!
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